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7:30 AM PST - CoDA Men's Stag - Tuesday Patterns

Readings are from Peeling the Onion | Sharing is on the pattern chosen for that week.

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Zoom ID: 496 247 069
Zoom Pass: coda

Please have the Peeling the Onion book available here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/peeling-the-onion

ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES

1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) Please join prior to 7:30 AM PST so that we may assign readers, timer and other service needs for the meeting.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.


LEADER SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT

(Leader follows the script, this is the group conscience.)

TUESDAY PATTERNS | Zoom Version

Good Morning and welcome to the 7:30 A.M. Men's Codependents Anonymous meeting.

My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your leader this morning.

(Leader reads the Preamble)

PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."

(Leader reads the following:)

All of the following readings can be found on the Main page of CVCODA.ORG and in the Blue Book of CoDA.

This is a men's CoDA meeting and if you are not a male, please find a meeting that suits your recovery.

  • Who would like to read the “Welcome”?

  • Who would like to read the 12 Steps?

  • Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?

  • We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time? Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.

  • Does anyone have 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? 6 months? 9 months?

  • Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?

  • This is a Patterns meeting based on excerpts from the CoDA Booklet “Peeling the Onion”.

  • Links to purchase this and other literature are found on the CVCODA.ORG site.

  • At this meeting we read one of the of Patterns of Codependence Anonymous from Peeling the Onion followed by sharing what we have read or about our relationships with ourselves or others.

  • Sharing-

    • Crosstalk: We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
    • We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
    • We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
    • Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
    • There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
    • We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
    • Sharing will end at 8:25.
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around for fellowship and phone numbers after the meeting.

    LEADER NOTE: One pattern is picked from the group of patterns in Peeling the Onion. The pattern is read with its bullet points and the recovery statement from ONE of the following groups of patterns:
    • 1st Tuesday - Denial Patterns
    • 2nd Tuesday - Low Self-Esteem Patterns
    • 3rd Tuesday - Compliance Patterns
    • 4th Tuesday - Control Patterns (or Avoidance Patterns if only 4 Tuesdays)
    • 5th Tuesday - Avoidance Patterns
  • Who would like to pick the our pattern today for discussion? (Note that we read ONE pattern and it's bullet points from the Peeling the Onion according to the schedule above)

LEADER NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
LEADER NOTE: The waiting room may be turned on if we have any issues with disruptive individuals.
LEADER NOTE: 8:25 - After everyone has shared:
  • Are there any announcements for the benefit of CoDA
  • Our 7th Tradition states that were are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting. Contributions support our group, Desert CoDA, SoCalCoDA and CoDA.org. The Venmo link for donations will be placed in the chat box.
  • In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
  • Who would like to read the promises?
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
  • After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.

7:30 AM PST - CoDA Men's Stag - Thursday Book Study

Readings are from the 3rd Edition of the CoDA Blue Book | Sharing is on the reading from the Blue Book for that week

Click here to join the meeting
Zoom ID: 941 318 697
Zoom Pass: coda

Please get your CoDA Blue Book here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/coda-book

ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES

1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) Please join prior to 7:30 AM PST so that we may assign readers, timer and other service needs for the meeting.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.


LEADER SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT

(Leader follows the script, this is the group conscience.)

THURSDAY BLUE BOOK STUDY | Zoom Version

Good Morning and welcome to the 7:30 A.M. Men's Codependents Anonymous meeting.

My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your leader this morning.

(Leader reads the Preamble)

PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."

(Leader reads the following:)

All of the following readings can be found on the Main page of CVCODA.ORG and in the Blue Book of CoDA.

This is a men's CoDA meeting and if you are not a male, please find a meeting that suits your recovery.

  • Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
  • Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
  • Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
  • We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time? Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
  • Does anyone have 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? 6 months? 9 months?
  • Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
  • This is a Blue Book Study out of the 3rd Edition of the CoDA Blue Book. Links to purchase this and other literature are found on the CVCODA.ORG site.
  • Sharing-
    • Crosstalk: We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
    • We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
    • We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
    • Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
    • There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
    • We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
    • Sharing will end at 8:25.
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around for fellowship and phone numbers after the meeting.
  • Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
  • This week we are on Page ____ of the Blue Book. The portion or story we are on starts with the title of ____________________.

    • (Someone or the leader can start the reading and determine where to stop for that week. With the large number of attendees, 4-5 pages are read till about 7:45-750 AM.)
  • The leader or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
LEADER NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
LEADER NOTE: After everyone has shared:
  • Are there any announcements for the benefit of CoDA
  • Our 7th Tradition states that were are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting. Contributions support our group, Desert CoDA, SoCalCoDA and CoDA.org. The Venmo link for donations will be placed in the chat box.
  • In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
  • Who would like to read the promises?
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
  • After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.

7:30 AM PST - CoDA Men's Stag - Reading of Peeling the Onion - Cover to Cover

Portions are read each week from the Peeling the Onion booklet over the course of many weeks as we traverse it cover to cover. Sharing is on the material read for that week

Click here to join the meeting
Zoom ID: 453 326 854
Zoom Pass: coda

Please have the Peeling the Onion book available here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/peeling-the-onion

ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES

1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) Please join prior to 7:30 AM PST so that we may assign readers, timer and other service needs for the meeting.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.


LEADER SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT

(Leader follows the script, this is the group conscience.)

FRIDAY MORNING PEELING THE ONION | Zoom Version

Good Morning and welcome to the 7:30 A.M. Men's Codependents Anonymous PEELING THE ONION meeting.

My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your leader this morning.

(Leader reads the Preamble)

PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."

(Leader reads the following:)

All of the following readings can be found on the Main page of CVCODA.ORG and in the Blue Book of CoDA.

This is a men's CoDA meeting and if you are not a male, please find a meeting that suits your recovery.

  • Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
  • Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
  • Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
  • We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time? Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
  • Does anyone have 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? 6 months? 9 months?
  • Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
  • This is a study of the booklet "PEELING THE ONION". We read from cover to cover over the course of many meetings and share on the one portion that is read today.
  • Links to purchase this and other literature are found on the CVCODA.ORG site.
  • Sharing-
    • Crosstalk: We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
    • We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or ad-dressing someone by ‘name’.
      • We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
    • Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
    • There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
    • We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
    • Sharing will end at 8:25.
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around for fellowship and phone numbers after the meeting.
  • This week we are on Page ____ of PEELING THE ONION.

    -As there are multiple versions of the booklet, and some using it electronically, read fhe portion or pattern out loud for attendees.) -(Usually one pattern is read as we go through the pamphlet, as in some sections, we might read two or three statements after we have traversed the patterns.) -The leader or another member starts the sharing on what was read.

LEADER NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
LEADER NOTE: After everyone has shared:
  • Are there any announcements for the benefit of CoDA
  • Our 7th Tradition states that were are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting. Contributions support our group, Desert CoDA, SoCalCoDA and CoDA.org. The Venmo link for donations will be placed in the chat box.
  • In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
  • Who would like to read the promises?
  • After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
  • After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.

For other meetings, please visit one of the following pages:

CoDA.org Main Meeting Finder

SoCalCoda Meeting List

Desert CoDA Meeting List

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